So, anyways, I had this blind date with a person whom I met through a mutual friend. She was in her upper 40's, has recently moved here from Hawaii about two years ago, from which she lived for about 25 years. The term that comes to mind is - disconnected. Real nice gal, friendly, but sorta - out there. She took the time to correct my pronunciation of two words, one word of Hawaiian origin, and a Hispanic word. OK. Will I see her again? Perhaps to hang out.
So on that note, I've had a revelation on a relationships topic. That being that many relationships breakup because one or both of the party has found the other has become boring. Will Duh! So my revelation is this - just what makes a new person - interesting? Unboring.
With the new person, you are 1) hearing new stories different from those you know and 2) retelling many of the same fucking stories you have told countless times before. The difference? It is to a new person who 1) has not heard it before and 2) has attentive ears which can at a moments notice, introduce - new stories, which - promotes the both of you to possibly laugh your ass off.
So as time passes, the both of you tell your stories until - boring. And the cycle starts anew.
This though is not really a new revelation, it's just been a while since I thought of it.
4 comments:
If one or the other in a relationship becomes "boring" as you say here, then it wasn't (or won't be)...in my opinion...a true relationship destined for the long term to begin with.
Besides, life shouldn't be about telling old stories: living each day to create new ones is where it's at!
Take care,
RM
By the way, did you get my invitation to Facebook?
Oh very true on "creating new stories" each day. Had not thought of that angle.
Yes, got invite. It might be a while. Not in the mood. Hope invite stands if I get around to it some day.
Indeed the invite stands...you know how to find me whenif you care to join. :-)
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